That's very long winded.
If you like the Commander, buy one.
If not then don't.
There are areas that can be addressed where reliability is concerned.
Many people remove the third row seats and install additional storage. I sat in mine yesterday to compare to the inlaws 2014 Honda Pilot. Head room is better in the Commander, and I hit my knees on the seats in the Pilot. The Pilot obviously has 3 seats in that row, but there is no way your putting 3 adult males back there. (I am 5'10 200LBs) Obviously the floor is very high in the commander third row, so your sitting cross legged or your knees are @ chest level. My kids LOVE the third row in my Commander. Third row seating is always an issue IMHO in all midsize SUV's.
The HEMI is the way to go in these vehicles. My v6 isn't terrible with a Hypertech Tune however. A proper gear ratio would help significantly, and its in my future.
Issues that I am aware of:
The Sunroof drain has a tendency to leak in these vehicles
N23 update causes 4Low to not work.
There is a yellow wire running to the starter that can corrode @ the connection and cause starting issues. Easy fix.
Oil Catch can is a common mod for the v8s
My darn keyless entry is acting up.
Maybe this helps you?
Commanders with QD2 and decent tires are very capable. More so with a lift.
Tons of aftermarket support for JEEPS and the Commander share a lot of parts with the Grand Cherokees (WK's)