Well I do have steel bumpers on order with a winch in the future, so should i just stay with the OME shocks and struts since they are HD? Unless the bilsteins will be just as fine.
there is no HD or MD with OME shocks struts. The spring rate is the only thing that changes.
If you have OME shocks/struts already, then I would definitely keep those, and consider a strut plate for an extra 1/2" if the front is too low for you with the extra weight.
If you have not purchased shocks and struts then I would definitely consider the bilsteins.
As a huge generalization, based on what I have read in regards to this, bilsteins will allow a bit more control on road and OME will be a bit softer for off road. Outside of that it is up to the end user to decide based on preferences. I will say that OME will still be superior to stock for on road control, especially compared to worn stockers.
Something to consider with Bilstein:
WARRANTY DETAILS FOR TC (B4) / C / HD (B6) / Sport (B8) / BTS (B12) / PSS (B14) / PSS9 & PSS10 (B16) / 5100 (Application Specific) GAS PRESSURE SHOCKS
LIMITED LIFETIME WARRANTY
Bilstein warrants to the original retail purchaser that, for the life of each Gas Pressure Shock, this product shall be free from defects in material and workmanship. Proof of purchase is required process warranty. Please return product to the original place of purchase.
I believe OME's warranty is 2 year/25k miles
However, some have said that because Bilstein 5100's are not marketed as being a Commander specific strut that they may not cover them in this application.
I feel that I am not helping too much, because again its a personal preference, and I have not tried both. You may be better served to post this @ jeepforum as they have more site traffic and many guys that run either of these shocks/struts in similar combinations with similar rigs to yours.